portraying thoughts

So, can thinking/considering something a lot be portrayed over to children? The last while Jon and I have been contemplating the possibility of adding another little one to our family. For us, we obviously can't go about things the 'normal' way. You know, the 'let's have a baby'...then 10 to 12 months later a little bundle of joy is born. (ok, so my perception is a bit jaded.)

We have to consider our options. Since plan 'A' isn't going to happen. On to plan 'B, C or D'. Basically our choices are: Adoption, Foster-care or Fertility. Each have pluses and minuses...shall we delve in a bit further.

Adoption
We have obviously done well with this route. We have Jakob and Ben because of the miracle of adoption. The downside is the time it takes to certify (at LEAST 6 months), and then the 'wait' factor. The wait could be short or it could be L-O-N-G. With the fact that we already have 3 children, many of the possible birthmoms will more likely go with a family with fewer or no children.

Foster Care
We are 'kinda' doing this, with Zae. Though nothing official. We aren't certified through the state, we are her Guardians until we are blessed to adopt her. Certification to foster takes as long as adoption certification. And you are more likely to get children in your home more quickly then with adoption, but then how long will they be able to stay? The goal with foster care is reunification with the biological family. So, it might be a little difficult to build our family via this route.
(I have a friend that lives in Florida, where there is SUCH a demand for foster-parents, for infants...and there is also a great need for fost/adopt parents, too...but that is an exception to the rule, normally it is VERY difficult to adopt a child younger then 2 or 3 through foster care.)

Fertility
Well, truthfully I am leaning more toward this route. That 6 months that it takes to certify for adoption or foster care could be utilized in finding out if there is a possibility of 'me' being our own 'birthmom'. ~wink~

We haven't delved very far into fertility treatments, because we really felt strongly about adoption...so only went a short distance down that road. Actually I did get pregnant...though I mis-carried at about 6 weeks. Who knows what this 'path' might hold for us? If we choose to take it.

Ok...I guess I got off on a tangent...in starting this post, I planned on talking about what our children are saying about babies. LOL. I guess I got a little distracted.

This morning as I was feeding Benjamin through his tube (yes, he still has it...we have to feed him through it about once a day)...Zaelynn said to me that she wants a baby sister...then she patted Ben's head, and said, 'like my baby brother'. (guess she wanted to be sure to let Ben know that she still loved him, even though she wanted another baby). Well, then Jakob commented that we would just have to wait until my tummy grew and grew, and then we would find out if it was a boy or girl. I asked Jakob what he meant by that. He said that I would be having the baby, that it would grow in my tummy...not someone else's. He also went on to explain that otherwise we would have to 'buy' the baby. (??) That we would have to go to the place where they take care of babies, and pick one out.(??) I then explained that we didn't 'buy' babies. That we were chosen to adopt the babies. That Rose (his birthmom) chose us to take care of him. And that Eli & Linda (Zae and Ben's bmom's) also chose us to take care of Zae and Ben. We didn't 'buy' the babies, though. I decided not to delve into adoption expenses, etc. I am wondering where he got the idea, though...maybe I will have to ask him after school, today.